by SBM
(NEW YORK)
MOM was my hero, my best friend, the love of my life. We have sometimes been terrible in our lives. Wicked divorce of an unfaithful man that terrible we beat when we were kids. Years later, she remarried, 5 years later, his companion killed my brother and six fired. MOM left me, was that it protected, every step of the way. This almost killed us, survive through this tradgedy. Marriage barely survived, but did it.I upload all and private schools. There is an involved son who is fanatical religion. Needless to say, that you step Dads behavior since MOM passed as Changed. HeS very secreative with me, I did not see in the eye. He is the executor of the estate, the Waviers and consent must be signed to Thursday I to receive settlement check of this monster of a diaease.
I saw Mom fighting for his life and RN and I knew that all was in for, it was not the blessing of the ignorance in the medical value. He spoke with me how he wanted to to its final coming and that had to be carried out. Along with her funeral that she expected. I am in New York City and they have begun to follow my rights and found that I am entitled to 60 per cent of settlement of MOM, step Pop 40%. Why is it constantly annoying signature to contact me, as the States? My answer is because I am entitlled. He refuses to "Understand my Entittlement". MOM and Pop have many other assets at stake. I feel as if I'm walking on the ice and ready to be released through of. I talked to MOM before past and asked her then everything would be alone in the world and at the time was too ill to care for. Do not listen to it when I asked that the list of things I wanted and I could not accept his destiny, even when he told me outwright, I die, it should continue with their lives. By the way, always told me, {patient} people knew when he was dying.
My heart goes out to each and every one of you dealing with this monster< truely="" i="" am,="" please="" be="" advised="" in="" my="" homost="" opinion,="" after="" living="" thru="" this="" step="" by="" step,="" they="" do="" not="" know="" what="" to="" do="" for="" these="" patients.="" she="" wanted="" to="" stop="" the="" cemo,="" we="" pushed="" her,="" i="" believe="" it="" did="" more="" damage="" shutting="" down="" her="" kidneys="" than="" if="" the="" diaease="" progreesed="" on="" its="" own.="" the="" massive="" amounts="" of="" drug="" cocktails="" are="" way="" too="" much="" for="" the="" kidneys="" {="" filters="" of="" the="" body="" }="" to="" process.="" if="" i="" ever="" walk="" in="" moms="" shoes,="" and="" i="" say="" this="" without="" a="" beat,="" i="" will="" find="" my="" local="" drug="" dealer="" and="" either="" numb="" myself="" silly="" before="" i="" go="" thru="" what="" my="" beloved="" mom="" did.="" the="" doctors="" and="" i="" spoke="" to="" many,="" many="" of="" them="" thru="" the="" process="" and="" after="" the="" passing="" and="" when="" i="" stated="" to="" them,="" "="" they="" really="" do="" not="" know="" what="" to="" do="" for="" these="" patients"?="" they="" all="" bowed="" their="" heads="" and="" softly="" spoke="" "no".="" its="" a="" grueling,="" unforgiving="" rollercoaster="" ride="" to="" hell="" for="" these="" people.="" when="" i="" began="" to="" do="" reaserch="" and="" found="" the="" govermenet="" knew="" in="" 1898="" {not="" a="" typo}="" what="" this="" stuff="" did,="" 40="" yrs="" before="" mom="" was="" born,="" that="" was="" the="" year="" the="" 1st="" cancer="" causing="" lawsuit="" was="" brought,="" my="" blood="" boiled.="" i="" read="" everything="" i="" could="" of="" this="" never="" heard="" of="" meso.="" then="" i="" took="" it="" to="" mom="" who="" told="" me="" call="" a="" lawyer,="" and="" were="" not="" folks="" who="" are="" sue="" happy="" people.="" were="" middle="" class,="" god="" fearing="" folks,="" who="" have="" had="" more="" heartache="" in="" our="" lives="" than="" i="" would="" wish="" on="" any="" emeny.="" my="" prayers="" go="" out="" to="" you="" all.prepare="" yourself,="" as="" we="" thought="" we="" had="" 5="" years="" with="" her,="" start="" to="" finsih,="" she="" was="" gone="" in="" 13="" months.="" i="" guess="" when="" the="" thorassic{sp?}="" surgen="" told="" us="" it="" was="" in="" 2/3="" of="" her="" lung,="" i="" was="" in="" denial="" from="" the="" begining.="" if="" i="" was="" do="" do="" this="" over,="" i="" would="" of="" told="" her="" take="" the="" pain="" meds="" and="" oxagen,="" she="" might="" have="" gotten="" more="" time.by="" this="" time,="" she="" looked="" awful="" upon="" returning="" from="" and="" out="" of="" state="" trip="" which="" she="" was="" hospialized,="" for="" a="" meso="" reaccorance.="" she="" &="" dad="" stopped="" by="" the="" house,="" i="" urged="" her="" to="" return="" to="" the="" hospital,="" she="" played="" with="" my="" children="" in="" the="" car,="" she="" was="" too="" weak="" to="" get="" out,="" told="" me="" i="" love="" you,="" it="" was="" the="" last="" time="" i="" heard="" her="" voice="" as="" she="" was="" rushed="" into="" surgery="" for="" fluid="" in="" her="" lungs="" and="" came="" out="" on="" a="" respirator.="" please="" educate="" yourself,="" if="" your="" kidneys="" begin="" to="" waiver,="" the="" other="" organs="" will="" follow="" shortly.="" mom="" being="" a="" nurse="" would="" want="" me="" to="" pass="" her="" knowledge="" to="" anyone="" it="" could="" aid,="" as="" she="" always="" gave="" her="" advice="" to="" anyone="" who="" inquired.="" she="" knew="" once="" the="" kidney="" function="" dimished,="" as="" you="" might="" hear,="" then="" they="" suggest="" dialyasis,="" which="" for="" her="" this="" took="" place="" once="" they="" induced="" her="" in="" a="" 30+="" day="" drug="" induced="" coma,="" by="" time="" they="" brought="" her="" out="" of="" it,="" her="" lungs="" got="" worse,="" all="" she="" wanted="" was="" to="" come="" home="" and="" die.we="" did="" manage="" to="" get="" her="" home.="" after="" a="" meeting="" at="" the="" hospital,="" i="" spoke="" to="" the="" hospice="" dr's="" and="" passed="" on="" moms="" wishes.="" to="" never="" pull="" the="" respirator="" from="" her="" until="" she="" was="" pronounced.="" to="" pull="" the="" dyalisis="" off="" upon="" her="" return="" home,="" she="" would="" fill="" up="" with="" fluid="" and="" god="" willing="" slip="" into="" a="" coma="" and="" pass="" in="" her="" sleep.mom="" got="" her="" wish.="" beaware="" please="" this="" also="" can="" cause="" the="" heart="" ot="" give="" out="" in="" numerious="" ways.="" but="" it="" is="" a="" peaceful="" passing.="" during="" this="" time="" she="" was="" given="" pain="" meds="" and="" others="" to="" offer="" her="" comfort.="" as="" you="" can="" see="" its="" been="" a="" year="" and="" finally="" i="" can="" share="" this="" info="" with="" you.="" i="" just="" keep="" telling="" myself,="" god="" {="" whom="" ever="" he="" may="" be="" for="" you}="" does="" not="" give="" us="" more="" than="" we="" can="" bear.="" i="" hope="" this="" helps="" someone="" out="" there="" and="" hope="" is="" good,="" but="" its="" a="" rare="" case="" that="" is="" granted="" longivity.="" plan="" ,="" plan="">
If there is someone who can help me with this situation, I thank you ahead. I feel this man is lying to me and has changed his behavior. It is not the only person who lost someone, and it should not be the only benefit.I am not looking to put the money to the wind, but I am afraid that his son might be undue influence. Always he had no problem in saying "NO" to me, never of his son? The son is not any way entittled as he is not her blood.
Keep the faith, educate yourselves and unfortunately planning in advance, will be one of the hardest things than ever before, but should be. My thoughts are with you all ~ peace
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